By Andromeda D Miradji

Did you ever think that we can prepare our own marriage alone? When planning a wedding in fact there are so many things you can do by yourself. However, most of us have some doubts or are not feeling confident about the “do’s and don’ts,” “should and should not do”.

It is true that for certain aspects of your special day should be handled by a professional. Why? That’s because a certain level of expertise should the need for some services. Catering, decorations, wedding dresses even card invitations are some examples you may think that it’s easier than the truth.

Let’s look at the list below about what should and should not do:

1. Do not get on the day of your special event as there is a joint venture between the family of the bride and groom. Grooms usually just need info about what to wear, where and when to appear. There are couples who for some family-dominated decision-making problems. You should make the decision for the main things are always together – because you will do this for the rest of your life and this is the best opportunity to get started.

2. Prepare everything in stages since the distant days as you have time. Do not think that it can all be done in a day. Do not let happen the day before your wedding just realized that you do not invite the guest of honor or your wedding dress is not ready for instance.

3. Do not let your wedding ceremony reflect and give a representation of you both, but you as an individual and who you are as a couple. This can be done with music, choir, video clips, pre-wedding photos, or other personal stories with background music of your choice.

4. Be careful in determining the position of sitting at the reception, ceremony and dinner as well. Especially if the parents have divorced and remarried but still have tension in the presence of each other. There must be no unnecessary stress and tears.

5. Strive to delegate tasks, do all of yours, so do you still have time to take care of yourself. At least a week before the big day arrives you can still have time to relax and pamper yourself at the spa. The goal is to make you more beautiful, stunning on your wedding day.

6. Never attempt to use the funds or the budget for education or buying a house just to have a glamorous wedding. The important thing is about the love between you and your partner. This is not about how much money you spend. It would be more meaningful and memorable than the rest of your life, not the beginning of bankruptcy.

7. Do not hide your expression. This is your special day, so expression yourself freely. If you want to sing, let it sing. If you want to dance let dance. Don’t be ashamed just because your uncle is a good singer or your aunt is a good dancer. This does not mean you should let them sing or dance in the first place. Tell them you love them and appreciate their attention by attending your wedding day.

8. Do not have excessive expectations about having the perfect party. Big? Yes. Perfect is something that is difficult. Keep your mind that this is a fun and sacred feast, not a class. A small mistake is common. Society will just skip it, so do not worry too much about it, otherwise it will look on your face. Of course you do not want to miss the aura of beauty and charming face you is not it? That they will always remember with fond memories for years to come.
9. Never touched drugs or drink alcohol before the ceremony. Drugs and drink will put you in the worst situation. Do not forget to pray, asking God to bless you both and your will … Amen.

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Andromeda D Miradji is a writer for various lifestyle issues and topics including weddings.

By Gail Vince, executive summarized by Andromeda

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At long last he has said those magic words ‘will you marry me’. You are now engaged. The wedding date has been set. What now?

Here are a few tips to help you organize and plan your wedding to ensure nothing is forgotten or left behind.

You have been to the local newsagent and bought the latest bridal magazine. There are pages and pages of photos of beautiful wedding dresses, rings, shoes and accessories and it is full of ads on what to buy and where to buy it. There is some information on what the requirements are at a wedding but not enough for you to really get started.

Start planning your special day now, get organized instead of rushing, and have the wedding of your dreams.

Careful planning will enable you to truly enjoy every moment of your Wedding Day. Arrangements for a large conventional wedding should ideally commence between 8 – 12 months prior to the wedding date. In saying this, weddings have been planned in as little as 6 weeks and have been very successful. By using a wedding timetable (this is a list of to do’s) you can follow a list of time frames to complete tasks, 12, 6, 3 and 2 months before, 6 weeks before, 2 weeks before and 1 week before the big day.

Don’t forget delegation! Family and friends love to help for special occasions so use them. Bounce ideas off them, get their opinion, you don’t have to act on their advice however more ideas are better than none to be able to make an informed decision.

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Research and systems

When doing your research you will collect large amounts of; information, photos, samples, receipts and business cards, therefore you will need to create a system to keep all your wedding details in the one place.

It may be a ring binder with tabs for each category, or an expansion file where you are able to quickly locate information. Some of the categories may include; Wedding Dress, Men’s Attire, Bridesmaid Dresses, Catering, Reception, Photography, Florist, Wedding Vehicles, Music, etc.

You could also create a scrapbook and cut images from magazines, print them off websites, insert photo’s you may have taken or photo’s from other peoples weddings. With a scrapbook you will be able to see how items work together to help you coordinate the theme of your wedding. Hints and tips can be noted, for example, place a disposable camera on each table (these are the shots you wouldn’t normally get) and place your guests name on both sides of their name card so other guests know who is sitting at the table.

Keep a list of the most important aspects of your wedding; the venue, the entertainment and your wedding dress. When you feel you are getting bogged down with all irrelevant details, refer back to what are the most important aspects of your special day.
Budget

Set a budget and stick to it! Weddings can be beautiful and fashionable without costing a fortune. By carefully budgeting, prioritizing and the assistance from family and friends you can have a wedding that is as good as any of the celebrity weddings at a third of the cost.

You may wish to open a bank account specifically for wedding expenses. This way you can keep track of all your expenses. Choose an account which offers a high interest rate on balances to get the best from your account and you may then be able to include those items that you thought you couldn’t afford from the interest.

Guest List

Start by writing down all the people you know. Then start a separate list from the people on the first list who are important to you, the people who you really want to share your special day. Then continue to fine tune your list until you are at a number which is within your budget. Remember, for every name you add to your list the more money you will have to spend or you will have to do without in other areas of your planning.

The Latest Wedding Trends

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Color! Color! Color! White is out, color is in!

Champagne, ivory, platinum or pink are some of the color replacing the traditional white wedding dress. By using color for the wedding dress this creates endless exciting possibilities as far as the rest of the decor goes. Colorful linen, napkins, tablecloths and chair covers, can be used to enhance the overall theme of your wedding.

Checkout my other guide on Wedding Reception.